Hypnotherapy Treatments

Avoidant Attachment Therapy

Hypnotherapy for Avoidant Attachment Issues

I offer one to one online hypnotherapy sessions for a range of different issues. Working with people across the UK and abroad, I specialise in helping people overcome anxiety, attachment issues, low self-esteem, childhood trauma and addictions. I offer a free 30 minute telephone consultation and you can find all the information about my fees and packages below.

What is Avoidant Attachment?

Do you find yourself feeling anxious, numb, grossed out or agitated when relationships become emotionally close?

Perhaps you feel like you’re being suffocated, or you struggle to express your needs for space so it’s easier to pull away.

Maybe you feel awkward when your partner wants to deepen the connection, and respond by creating a distraction or using humour.

Your partner may be picking up on this and begin to seem uncomfortable, needy or anxious, which only makes you distance yourself more.

It might have started out feeling great to connect with someone you really like… maybe you got excited and rushed full steam ahead, and now it feels like it’s all moving too fast and you want to back out.

Having an avoidant attachment style can make it feel uncomfortable when someone relies on you. It can be confusing, knowing you want closeness yet feeling overwhelmed and that intimacy becomes too intense.

For many years, people have seen attachment styles as being fixed in one position. However, we can actually develop something called “earned secure attachment”, and I help people do this with avoidant attachment hypnotherapy.

Signs You May Have an Avoidant Attachment Style

Avoidant attachment can be confusing for you and your partner, because it isn’t always obvious and it doesn’t mean you don’t want closeness. For some people, closeness causes extreme discomfort and it may stop them from ever letting people in. But for others, it can be more subtle patterns that show up in relationships, or keep you from ever getting close enough to make love last.

Some signs of avoidant attachment can include:

Intense feelings of desire and excitement early on in relationships then losing interest
Feeling suffocated by or overly responsible for your partner’s emotional needs
Avoiding eye contact, blushing or turning away from conversations with someone who might be interested in you
Wanting physical closeness but then feeling overwhelmed or turned off when intimacy develops
Finding flaws or particular traits in your partner unbearable or repulsive
Discomfort with emotional conversations, deflecting with humour or distraction
Feeling numb, checked out, disgusted or angry at your partner’s emotions
Deep beliefs that people will hurt you or that there’s no point to relationships
Feeling disconnected, “robot-like” or out of touch with your own emotions
Avoiding conflict or emotional topics out of fear or discomfort

What Causes Avoidant Attachment?

Avoidant attachment is not something wrong with you or anything to be ashamed of. It is a protective strategy that forms in early childhood, due to parents who were emotionally unavailable, rejecting or dismissive of your needs. This can cause a child to become hyper-independent or learn to shut down emotions and needs.

It isn’t always linked to extreme abuse, although it can be, but often it is the result of parents. who struggled with their own attachment issues and feelings of discomfort with their emotions.

Some attachment wounds that can cause avoidant attachment:

Emotional or physical rejection, dismissing or ignoring the child’s needs
Being unresponsive, cold or irritated by the child’s emotions
Parents who were harsh, critical or punishing towards the child’s needs or wants
If the parent/s have addictions or other needs that are routinely put above the child’s
Lack of attunement, postpartum depression or other forms of disconnection with the child
Parents who avoid their own emotions, dislike showing affection or feel shame around closeness

How Avoidant Attachment Hypnotherapy Can Help

Traditional talking therapy can sometimes feel uncomfortable for people with avoidant attachment, because talking about emotions ca feel uncomfortable or triggering.

Many people who come to me for avoidant attachment hypnotherapy have tried talk therapies before but ended up walking away because it felt too much, pointless or like they couldn’t connect with the therapist.

By using inner child hypnotherapy, it allows us to get closer to the original attachment injuries without needing to talk too much or express deep emotions

Over a few sessions, this helps to make exploring emotions feel safer, and give the nervous system tools to handle closeness.

Inner child hypnotherapy works by:

Gently releasing subconscious patterns driving avoidance
Building emotional safety gradually at your pace
Helping you feel safe to explore old emotions and memories
Supporting expression without forcing emotional intensity
Guiding you to connect with yourself in a way that feels authentic and sustainable

This approach helps your nervous system learn:

Connection is safe.
It’s okay to express your needs.
You don’t have to do everything alone.

Who I help With Avoidant Attachment Hypnotherapy

I offer one to one online avoidant attachment hypnotherapy for adults from my UK based hypnotherapy service. Online sessions allow you to access hypnotherapy from anywhere in the UK around the world.

People come to me for avoidant attachment hypnotherapy when:

They feel lonely but struggle to connect with others
Relationships keep ending in the same cycle of disappointment or running away
Partner’s keep telling them they need more that what they feel able to give
They want to find love but are afraid of getting hurt
Expressing emotions feels intensely vulnerable and uncomfortable
They may have been single for a long time and want tolerant how to connect better
Anger or resentment keeps pushing people away
Using alcohol, drugs, sex or other addictive behaviours has become a replacement for intimacy
Deep beliefs of not being lovable or getting hurt keep them from seeking connection

You can book a free 30 minute telephone consultation so we can discuss your goals and see if we’re a good fit before working together.

Let’s start with a chat and see how I can help you on your journey to personal growth and freedom!

My Hypnotherapy Fees, Packages and Benefits

£135 p/h

I offer single sessions from £135 per hour. These sessions are perfect for ad hoc hypnosis therapy on a PAYG basis.

Packages From £255

I offer a range of packages from £255 for 2 sessions per month, and a range of other options to suit different budgets.

Avoidant Attachment Hypnotherapy