Hypnotherapy Treatments
Self-Esteem Hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy for Self-Esteem
I offer one to one online self-esteem hypnotherapy sessions from my UK based hypnotherapy service.
Working with people across the UK and abroad, I specialise in helping people overcome anxiety, attachment issues, low self-esteem, childhood trauma and addictions. I offer a free 30 minute telephone consultation and you can find all the information about my fees and packages below.
What is Self-Esteem?
Your self-esteem is how you feel about yourself and your sense of value in the world. Esteem isn’t something that you’re born with. It develops during childhood and it’s your parents job to teach you how to feel about yourself.
Your sense of esteem is not just tied to how you look either, it is about whether you feel worthy, lovable and good enough, even with all your human flaws.
Unfortunately, not all of us grow up with parents who esteemed us properly. They may have struggled with their own sense of worth or body image issues, which blocked them from being able to help us build our own healthy esteem.
Or they may have been hyper-focused on image, which can lead to feelings of your worth being only skin deep.
Modern views on beauty and social media influence can also affect your self-image. Comparing yourself to unachievable standards of beauty or expectations to be “perfect” at all times, can feed into core beliefs about not being good enough.
Healthy esteem isn’t about feeling better than anyone else or believing you are perfect. It is about feeling good about who you are, knowing that you are good enough even on a bad day when you’re not feeling, or looking your best. And that you have inherent worth and value, just like everyone else.
If you have low self-esteem hypnotherapy can help by identifying core beliefs that may be beneath feelings of unworthiness or low confidence.
Using inner child hypnotherapy, I help people to reparent and esteem the younger parts of themselves that feel less than, and start to love themselves as they are.
Signs of Low Self-Esteem
Low self-esteem can show up in many different ways. It can affect how you connect and communicate in relationships, how confident you feel in social situations or at work, and even how you talk to yourself. If you struggle with low self-esteem or self-worth issues, you may resonate with some of the signs below.
Some signs of low self-esteem can include:
- Feeling less than other people or comparing yourself negatively to others
- Assuming other people don’t like you even when there’s no reason to
- Constantly thinking about your looks and what other people think of you
- Seeking validation by trying to attract attention or using seductive behaviour
- Apologising too much, even for things that aren’t your fault
- Being uncomfortable with complements, refusing gifts or acts of kindness
- Fear of being seen or even deep panic of public exposure
- Blushing intensely when feeling exposed or in the spotlight
- Beliefs of being unworthy, not good enough or unlovable
- Shutting down, not speaking up, poor boundaries or avoiding conflict
- Shrinking away from conversations or advances from potential partners
- Accepting poor behaviour from partners out of fear that “no one else will want you”
- Using alcohol, drugs, sex or other behaviour to feel more confident
What Causes Low Self-Esteem?
Low self-esteem usually comes from a lack of esteeming in childhood, or expectations of the child that were unachievable. Over-esteeming a child such as assigning high value to a child’s appearance, achievements or behaviour can also set the child up for unhealthy esteem issues.
It isn’t always intentionally harmful parenting or abuse, although this will definitely cause esteem issues. Sometimes how the parents feel about themselves can also affect the child inadvertently, by passing down messages of low self-worth or beliefs of not being as good as others.
Childhood experiences that can lead to low self-esteem:
- Parents who teased or mocked you for how you looked
- Being shamed about your body image, appearance or weight
- Stifling expression or denying a child’s right to explore their identity
- Parents pointing out physical features in the child they dislike about themselves (“poor thing, you have my nose” for example)
- Neglect of the child’s basic needs or appearance
- Putting too high value on the child’s appearance or achievements
- Parents who sexualise themselves or act out inappropriately in front of the child
- Ignoring a child’s need for reassurance when they experience shame, bullying or injury
- Linking bad behaviour to the child’s worth – “this is bad” vs “you are bad” etc.
- Abuse or neglect of any kind
Parenting that leads to healthy esteem:
- Affirming the child is valuable even when they make a mistake
- Encouraging and supporting the child to express their identity
- Praising the child for who they are, not just how they look or things they do
- Listening to and supporting the child with difficult emotions
- Taking care of the child’s appearance and teaching them self-care
- Modelling healthy esteem with good boundaries, self-care, healthy self-talk and life choices
- Standing up for the child in response to bullying or abuse
- Staying attuned to the child’s emotional needs, recognising when the child’s confidence is low and needs support
- Supporting the child through the different stages of growth and change, sharing healthy experience and perspectives
- Being unconditionally loving, consistent and safe for the child
Who I help With Self-Esteem Hypnotherapy
I offer one to one online self-esteem hypnotherapy for adults from my London based hypnotherapy service. Online sessions allow you to access hypnotherapy from anywhere in the UK around the world.
People come to me for self-esteem hypnotherapy when:
- Negative self-talk is affecting them daily
- They’re tired of negatively comparing themselves to other people all the time
- They keep getting attracted to unavailable people
- Looking in the mirror or seeing photos brings shame or self-loathing
- Losing weight or counting calories has become obsessive
- They’re tired of feeling less than others all the time
- Imposter syndrome is getting in the way of work or social activities
- Focusing on appearance or wanting to change how they look is constantly on their mind
- Feelings of shame, not being good enough or unlovable are affecting how they feel
You can book a free 30 minute telephone consultation so we can discuss your goals and see if we’re a good fit before working together.
Let’s start with a chat and see how I can help you on your journey to personal growth and freedom!
My Hypnotherapy Fees, Packages and Benefits
£135 p/h
I offer single sessions from £135 per hour. These sessions are perfect for ad hoc hypnosis therapy on a PAYG basis.
Packages From £255
I offer a range of packages from £255 for 2 sessions per month, and a range of other options to suit different budgets.
Free E-book and Audios
Sign up for any package and receive a free copy of my ebook, Heal Your Inner Child, including hypnosis audios.
Self-Esteem Hypnotherapy FAQ
How can hypnotherapy help self-esteem?
Hypnotherapy can help heal low self-esteem by resolving core beliefs that are affecting how you feel about yourself. Hypnosis can also help you change the way you talk to yourself, changing internal messages from critical or harsh to a kinder more supportive inner voice.
Do I need to remember my childhood for hypnotherapy to work?
No you don’t need to remember everything from childhood or even any specific memories for hypnotherapy to work. Inner child hypnotherapy can help resolve emotions that inner child parts of you are still carrying without needing to go into the details of what happened.
Will hypnotherapy work if I can't go into a trance?
The good thing about Cognitive Hypnotherapy and inner child work, is that you don’t need to be able to go into a deep trance. We use light trance states that actually work better when you are aware of what’s happening. The change happens by us working through old emotions, experiences or beliefs, not whether you can go into trance.
How will I know if self-esteem hypnotherapy has worked?
People usually start noticing that they’re feeling different about themselves after the first 2-3 sessions. You might start noticing kinder self talk when things go wrong or that you’re worrying less about what other people think of you. Sometimes people start wearing the dress they’ve wanted to have the confidence to go out in, or go to the barbers or hair dresser for the first time in ages.
How many hypnotherapy sessions will I need for low self-esteem?
The number of hypnotherapy sessions you need depends on the issues that are linked to your self-esteem. People often seeing improvements to their self-esteem in 3-6 sessions. However, for people who experienced a lot of dysfunction or trauma in childhood it can take longer. In extreme cases, longer term hypnotherapy might be needed to resolve deep trauma.
I offer a free consultation so we can discuss your needs and create a plan that works for you.