Do you ever feel so angry that you fear you’ll lose control? Do you throw a fit over small mistakes? If so, anger is making your life complicated. Thankfully, there are many ways to improve your anger issues. One of the emerging ones is hypnotherapy for anger management.
Read on to learn more about having anger management issues and how you can start solving them!
Are you having anger issues?
Feeling anger from time to time is perfectly normal.
For some of us, though, it can become debilitating. It puts a strain on our relationships, jobs and self-esteem. We might not even realise that we have anger issues because we feel justified in our actions or put the blame on others. But accepting that we have a problem is the first step towards a more peaceful life!
So, how can you tell if your anger is perfectly normal or over the top?
Here are some common signs of anger management issues.
Your anger has led you to:
- Violence towards others
- Breaking the law
- Intentionally damaging property or breaking things
- Feeling completely out of control
- Worrying about what you might do
- Very frequent arguments with loved ones
- Feeling angry and tense almost all the time
- Raging about small mistakes
If this sounds familiar, it’s time to think about what you can do to get your anger under control.
Tips to deal with anger
Besides complicating your social and working life, living in anger can lead to mental and physical health problems, including high blood pressure, heart disease, anxiety and depression.
This is because anger sends your body into a “fight-or-flight” response. You’re pumped with adrenaline which keeps you on your toes. While this is useful when you’re fighting off a tiger or a robber, it gives you no real advantage in everyday life. When you’re raging because a driver didn’t let you into their lane, you’re just stressing yourself out.
If you’re often angry, your body is in a permanent state of stress.
And that’s exhausting!
So, here are some tips that can help you get started with your anger management.
1. Understand your triggers
Start by noticing when you’re getting angry. What situations, people or conversations push you off the edge?
Take notes and reflect on situations to try to determine how they escalate. Write down everything that seems important. After a while, you’ll notice some things over and over again – those are the patterns that are emerging. And there you’ll find your triggers!
Maybe you lose your temper every time you feel bossed around. Or perhaps you feel like exploding every time your spouse leaves the dirty dishes lying around (again!) or when your assistant brings you the wrong coffee.
The triggers can be many and are unique for each person. But once you know what they are, you can be prepared.
2. Take some space
When a trigger situation happens – pause!
Take some time and space to take a step back and decide on how you’ll react. This lets you think about the best way to proceed.
You can do this by taking deep breaths, counting to 10, listening to calming music or distracting yourself and directing your energy into a healthier outlet. And if you start feeling like you’re losing control, remove yourself from the situation. Just leave. Come back when you cool off.
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3. Prepare for difficult conversations
Some conversations might be particularly challenging or triggering for you.
Try to plan ahead so it’s easier to navigate the situation. Think about what you might say, take some notes and practise beforehand. Consider the most probable triggers you might run into and think about what you’ll do then. Prepare relaxation or distraction techniques to use if you start losing your temper.
Good preparation will help you stay in control, even when it gets difficult.
4. Ask for help
The path to healthy anger management is rarely straightforward.
It can be challenging to make a change, especially if anger outbursts have been your normal for a while. That’s why asking for professional help is often the most efficient way of making long term progress. A professional can guide you, provide advice, encourage you on a bad day and talk things through with you.
Hypnotherapy for anger management treatment has been gaining popularity for a while now! Many people have found it effective for their anger issues.
Hypnotherapy for anger management
Hypnotherapy puts you into a relaxed state. The body “falls asleep” but the mind stays awake and present. This allows your hypnotherapist to lead you on a journey to your subconscious mind. There, you can find the root cause of your anger issues.
Certain past events or the way you were treated might’ve shaped a system of damaging beliefs about life and yourself. And that’s a fertile ground for anger management issues.
Perhaps you were treated unjustly or like you didn’t matter. Maybe anger was the only acceptable emotion in the family or you were a target of abuse and ridicule. Again, the causes can be many.
Hypnotherapy for anger management helps you understand your behaviour. It gives you the tools to change your negative thought patterns and shed light on your triggers. When you understand why you get so upset, you open up the space for empathy and healing.
Your hypnotherapist will guide you with gentle words and will suggest different ways of acting when you feel your anger coming up. They can also teach you relaxation techniques you can apply in your everyday life. The aim is that, after some time, you feel calmer and more relaxed generally, but also when faced with triggers.
If you want to learn more about hypnotherapy for anger management, book a free consultation with me!